Are You a Mom Who Needs Less Stress and More Support?
- Do you have a difficult time asking for help?
- Do you feel selfish taking time to do something for yourself?
- Do you lay in bed at night worrying about your child or family?
- Do you wish you had more support?
As a mom, it can feel overwhelming and isolating taking care of your children, spouse, home, and wearing all of the different hats required to keep your family on track. You regularly put yourself on the back burner and wonder how long you can keep this up and resent not having more support.
You might look around and believe that most of the other moms have it all together, are well-supported, and are thriving in their roles as mother, wife, and woman. You might wonder what’s wrong with you and why your husband isn’t more supportive. You feel lost and wonder where the ‘old’ you went. You might feel alone in parenting due to your spouse’s demanding job.
Most Moms Struggle with Worry, Self-Care, and Not Feeling Good Enough
Feeling overwhelmed is a common but often unspoken truth to being a mom. Parenting is hard and requires selflessness even when your own tank nears empty. For those with spouses who travel often or have demanding jobs, it is easy to feel resentful with the lack of support needed to manage the day to day of keeping your family afloat.
As children grow, parenting demands (and stress levels) shift which can make you feel like you’re always playing a game of catch-up and are never quite on top of things. You can begin to wonder who is taking care of you while you are taking care of everyone else. This constant stress can trigger exhaustion, anxiety, depression, or marital difficulties. Many moms suffer silently instead of asking for help in fear of appearing weak or not having it all together.
The good news is that you can find the ever-elusive balance of supporting your family while also taking care of yourself. With the help of a compassionate and experienced therapist, you can learn to thrive and not just survive each parenting phase while communicating your needs and experiencing a fulfilling family life.
Counseling Can Help Save Your Sanity
Most moms experience challenges in balancing their home and personal lives. Being a mom is one part of your identity but does not define who you are. You are a woman, and you are also married and have a child. I excel at helping overwhelmed parents reclaim their lives and find balance.
In our sessions, we’ll address your needs and goals through a conversational yet direct approach. I use a combination of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and practice approaches in my work. Mindfulness helps decrease feelings of anxiety and overwhelm while CBT uses a concrete approach to help clients recognize and change behavioral patterns that contribute to feeling overwhelmed, tired, and stressed.
Changing patterns takes time. Past clients have told me that they appreciated my suggestions of small steps for change rather than asking them to change everything in their parenting approaches at once. We’ll work together to identify concrete, measurable goals each week. I assign simple, manageable homework, such as signing up for that yoga class or saying no to that classroom volunteering request. When you begin to recognize feelings of overwhelm and stress – and gain the skills to effectively communicate your need for a break – you can develop a home-life balance that is sustainable and enjoyable long-term.
It’s okay to have limits and to need more support. Learning how to ask for help brings relationships closer and gives you more time to prioritize your life. I am here to support you in developing these skills so that you can enjoy parenting rather than feel burdened. You can have the family life you envision.
Some Fears You Might Have About Therapy
- My therapist will think I’m a bad parent.
All parents face parenting struggles but only good parents know when they need help and are brave enough to ask for it.
- I don’t want people to know how bad things are.
Talking to an unbiased person and giving them the whole picture is the first step to getting help.
Things Will Get Better
If you would like to schedule an appointment or discuss any questions you might have about working together, please contact me today for a free 20-minute phone or in-person consultation. This phase won’t last forever, and I am here to help.