Are You Struggling with Fertility Issues or New Motherhood?
Does it feel like it’s easy for everyone else to get pregnant leaving you to wonder when it will happen for you?
Have you had a recent miscarriage and feel isolated and alone in your grief?
Are you a new mom struggling with the realities of parenthood hoping things will get easier?
Do you wonder when you will feel like yourself again?
Struggling with fertility issues or being a new mom can be isolating and lonely. You want to know things will get better and to feel more supported but don’t know where to turn.
You are tired of putting on a brave face when the reality is that you feel scared, overwhelmed, guilty, and alone. You might question what you’re doing wrong since it seems like everyone else can get pregnant, carry a baby to term, or thrive as a new mom. You might try to talk to your spouse or friends, but they may not understand your feelings which can lead to additional strain and further isolation. You may start to feel anxious or depressed.
You Are Not Alone
Many women face fertility issues and struggle with feelings of guilt, fear, and isolation. 6.1 million women in the United States have difficulty getting pregnant or staying pregnant, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The road to fertility can be full of highs and lows of a positive pregnancy, miscarriages, and fertility treatments. An IVF cycle can bring both excitement and stress and can feel like a full-time job in terms of the time and energy involved. The added burden of trying to balance your fertility journey with regular life can take a toll in your work and personal relationships which can trigger depression, exhaustion, or anxiety.
New motherhood can be stressful and isolating. You might look around and believe that most of the other new moms have it all together, are well-supported, and are integrating their new identity as mom with grace and ease. In fact, as reported in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, research has shown that having a child lowers a new mom’s self-esteem for at least three years. You might wonder what’s wrong with you, when it will get easier, and why your spouse isn’t more supportive. Many new moms suffer in silence rather than ask for help in fear of appearing weak or not having it all together.
The good news is that you don’t have to feel alone during this time in your life, and there are ways to feel better. With the help of a compassionate and experienced therapist, you can learn to walk this journey with compassion, strength, and authenticity.
Counseling Can Help You Feel Supported
You don’t have to do it alone, and it’s okay to ask for help. Fertility issues and new motherhood are two of the greatest challenges a woman will face.
Many women facing the challenge of infertility or new motherhood need greater support, and I excel at helping with the myriad of emotions and issues facing women during this vulnerable part of their lives.
In our sessions, I will provide a calm, nurturing, and nonjudgmental environment where you will feel heard and understood. I use a combination of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, validation, and psychoeducation in my work. Mindfulness helps decrease feelings of anxiety and overwhelm while CBT uses a concrete approach to help clients recognize and change behavioral patterns that contribute to feeling overwhelmed and stressed. I will help you connect to additional resources such as doulas, sleep consultants, or medication providers who specialize in women’s health to help you through this difficult phase.
Past clients have told me that they appreciated having a nonjudgmental space to talk honestly to be reassured that it’s okay to feel the way they do. We’ll take a practical approach to finding solutions to help you feel best supported.
Things will get better. This phase won’t last forever, and you can get the support you need. I am here to help.
Some Questions You Might Have About Therapy
- Talking to someone about my infertility issues won’t help.
Acknowledging your feelings of disappointment and frustration are the first steps to healing.
- My best friend doesn’t even know I had a miscarriage, why would I tell a therapist?
Therapy is a confidential space just for you. You can talk about your frustrations, anger, and fear. You can work through these feelings without feeling judged or worrying how it will impact your friendship.
- I’m embarrassed that I’m not bonding with my baby. I’m afraid my therapist will think I’m a bad mother.
Postpartum depression and anxiety are the number one complication of pregnancy. Talking about your feelings and finding support may improve your bond with your baby and could reduce the time you experience these negative feelings.
Let Yourself Be Supported
If you would like to schedule an appointment or discuss any questions you might have about working together, please contact me today by phone (919-928-5123) or email (email@example.com) for a free 20-minute phone consultation. I am here to help.